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Suppose for a moment that there is "the one" significant other for everyone, like people sometimes have a tendency to assume. I believe it is also reasonable to assume that in that case "oneness" is bound to be bidirectional. In terms of logic:
IF A is the one for B THEN B is the one for A.Did anyone ever come to think of that in that case, when someone is tagging up with a significant other that is not "the one" for them, they are ultimately also ruining the chances of their "the one" counterpart ever finding his/her "the one". And since most people don't believe in this mambojambo about "the one" but instead pair up with anyone who in sufficient terms meet their standards, the logical conclusion would have to be that even if there was "the one" for everyone, for the majority it would not be possible to pair up with that person. I guess logic and romance just don't mix, eh? ![]() Besides, there are more females in the world than men. I rest my case.
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I am all but romantic and so is my girlfriend, so in that department we do have a match: A equals B and B equals A
![]() But I am more the logical, practical, rational type whereas my girlfriend is non of those ( haven't we heard that before) but tends to be more sensitive. A and B unequal. The best of both worlds or both of best worlds. I also rest my chase eh I mean case. |
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If the female to male ratio is more than 2:1 maybe they should make it legal to have two wives
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Logic and romance is a heady brew just look at Mr Spock during Pon Pha!
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faithful. If a married/engaged man loves more than one woman, people say he is unfaithful. But more woman doesn't that make him more faithful .Never fully understood. Last edited by GEISHA; 19 May 08 at 19:47. |
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I believe that with 6 billion people running around and a fairly limited number of character traits, there is more than just 1 "the one". Also, someone being "the one" usually means that that person meets the most important requirements, and you can live with the imperfections as long as they don't irritate too much. Since these imperfections can be different from one "the one" to the other "the one", there can be more than one "the one" that meets the important requirements and has random unimportant imperfections.
Anyway, your presumption IF A is the one for B THEN B is the one for A is of course a false one in the first place. A can have exactly the right character traits and physical attractiveness for B, but that surely doesn't need to be mutual. Think "beauty and the nerd" I'm sure lots of men think, for example, Carmen Electra is the perfect woman both physically and characterally (?), but it's pretty obvious Carmen will find all those men also "the perfect guy".
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Is there "the one" for everyone? Yes, "the one" who's attention you can get...and keep!
![]() I'm married, and the morality that was passed down to me through my genes has made me--despite the best efforts of the culture I grew up in--monogamous and faithful. I wish it were otherwise, because I rarely go through a day without encountering another woman I'd like to shag, but that's just who I am: I know I couldn't live with the guilt of being "unfaithful." |
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..damn, I opened this thread never imagining there might be "math" involved
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IMO I think a lot of people focus too much on the concept of "the one" or soulmates. Most often people associate this concept with the ideal relationship wherein everything is easy. The best relationships require the most work, patience, and understanding. If your not willing to do that, you'll never find the one, or even if you did, you'd never know it.
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You can't seriously believe there is "a" soulmate we're all destined to have as our partner!? That's just sentimental nonsense fed by the writers of romance novels and Hallmark cards! I'd be willing to bet that 1 out of ANY 10 women you meet could strike you as "the one" if you encountered her in just the right circumstances. Sure, we all have our own preferences for physical and personality traits, but there are only so many possible combinations. Just stop to think, for a moment, how many women we find attractive in any given day. Now think how attracted you would be to each of those women if you and she encountered each other in a social setting in which both of you were presented in "a favorable light." The possibilities are ENDLESS! After the initial mutual attraction, ALL relationships require a mutual willingness to work out the inevitable differences, as brabham67 just wrote. But RIGHT NOW there are millions of women (or men, if you prefer) on the planet who you could be happy with as your partner for life!
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Oh my God, sometimes I wonder if people leave their...
well... Did somebody notice that the fact that there are more women in the world happens to be for 75% caused by women getting older than men... To those with polygamous thoughts:
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![]() The idea of this thread was to point out that the idea of "the one destined partner" is a contradiction, almost a paradox, if you will, because even if a unique match existed for everyone, in most cases, the pair would be inevitably unmatchable because one side of that pair would already be matched with someone else (regardless of whether the environment is a monogomy or a polygomy). In short, if we assume that there is a unique destined "the one" for everyone, just one mismatched pair would prove this scenario wrong, as the counterpart-"the ones" of those two individuals would be blocked off (all they could do is stay unpaired or form another mismatched pair together, supposing all other pairs would be successful matches). To make it easier to understand, imagine there are millions of unique locks and one unique key for each lock. Now, if you force a wrong key to any of those locks, the result is that one key will fit no available lock (as its lock is already taken by the wrong key) and a correct key cannot be found for one lock (because that key is already in the wrong lock). Of course, some of those relationships will not last forever, and one might argue that eventually the unique "the ones" will find eachother, even though they aren't available for matching all of the time. But the fact that a fragment of the population dies before they ever have the change to engage in a relationship proves that this argument is void. (Comparable to a situation in the previous comparison in which a lock or a key is destroyed leaving its counterpart to exist.) I have to rectify my statement earlier. The uneven number of male and female population does not prove the theory wrong as a part of the population are homosexuals. The unique match can also be a single-gendered pair. (An odd number of humans in the world would in fact prove the assumption wrong, but as the population figure is dynamic and constantly changing, it cannot be accurately known at any given moment.) The point of all this? No point. Just playing with thoughts, like the topic says.
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OK, I did, and I quote:
"Suppose for a moment that there is "the one" significant other for everyone, like people sometimes have a tendency to assume. I believe it is also reasonable..." You could read that to mean that you thought the first proposition "reasonable." ![]() Quote:
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![]() I believe it is also reasonable to assume that in that case... |
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I read about A and B only...
whats about C to Z ?
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Here's another intreaking way of looking at things:
Let's assume a scientific materialistic world for a moment in which all the matter that was formed was hydrogen and helium at first. Later on the nuclei started to combine forming more complex elements and compounds. So, basically, let's assume that the scientific explanation of the beginning of the universe is accurate. Now, think about your computer, all your cool racing sims, NFL, the moon rockets, coffee mugs, washing machines, mathematical formulas, nuclear weapons etc. All those things are something that hydrogen atoms do when they're given 13,7 billion years of time. |
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"I think" and "reasonable to believe" are a bit weakish terms when defining something But anyway, if you're defining "the one" like that, then I have no further comments
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When looking at one hydrogen atom, it's clear what its properties are. When adding them together, at a certain moment you get complexity and the properties of a large bunch of these atoms cannot be predicted from the properties of a single atom. Same with clusters of different atoms, clusters of molecules and ultimately, clusters of brain cells.
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Seeing as this is debate about "the one" and "IF A is the one for B THEN B is the one for A" has been going for some time and descended into a bit of math, I will add my two cents.
While some argue that the logic is a bit weak in "If A is the one for B THEN B is the one for A", its a very good match to the romantic idea of the "the one", destiny, etc. Now for the math part .To prove or disprove this theory there needs to be a precise unambiguous operator for determining if "the one" holds true for two people A and B. Because this operator is currently impossible to define (and I am sure many many people have tried.) the theory cannot be proved or disproved convincingly. All arguments here therefore are anecdotal in nature and merely suggest if the theory holds or not.
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If the theory about "the one" is false, then the possibility of finding "the one" is zero. If the theory about the one is true, then the possibility of finding "the one" is still pretty close to zero, because there are over 3 billion entities some of which are already paired. |
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But now I have to get back to work from my lunch break, so I'll post a more elaborate response later. EDIT: Ok, I'm back now. Well, actually, I believe that the properties of a large cluster of hydrogen atoms could be calculated from a single hydrogen atom, if we knew all the laws of physics and had enough computational power and assuming the Heisenberg uncertainty principle does not apply or that there's a way around it. Last edited by doo; 21 May 08 at 14:56. |
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mathematically they cancell out
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It COULD be possible given enough knowledge and computational power, but it's more probable that we still wouldn't be able to predict every little detail. Then, the only way to simulate or calculate it would be just to have the actual cluster of atoms do it for us, i.e. no simulation can predict everything and we're stuck with reality That's Gödel for you...
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![]() But in terms of reality, I'd have to agree with Gödel there. |
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That's too bad, because if you proved him wrong you'd be in for a Nobel prize immediately
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Maybe it means he has six wives.
Disadvantage would be.... six mother-in-laws.... |
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How on earth do you get around the uncertainty principle
the act of getting around it would probably change the position and velocity of the atom lol.
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I think theoretical physics is one of the most interesting topics I know.
I am fascinated by how simplified our every-day conception of the world actually is. Like time and dimensions or spacetime. Time is affected by a lot of factors, like gravity and light, and entangled particles suggest that space is only a construct that creates the illusion that there are separate objects or dimensions. There is no timeline as we comprehend it and there are no dimensions as we comprehend them. I guess I could say that understanding quantum physics makes me understand, how little I understand of the true nature of things. |
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The most mind-boggling notion I have come to realize is that 'reality' as we experience it is basically a simulation in our brain. Given the specific way our senses pick up stimuli from our surroundings and the way our brain processes, filters and interprets those stimuli and comminucates the result to our consciousness (whatever THAT is
), we experience the world around us as it is. If our senses would be different (e.g. we could hear different sound frequency ranges or could see, for example, infrared) and/or our brain would process these signals differently, we would experience a completely different 'reality'.
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Colors are another interesting thing. Why do we see colors the way we do? After all, colors are just photons, electromagnetic radiation with different wavelengths. Even more interesting it gets when we ask, what would the world be like if stripped of the filtering through senses and also stripped of concepts? Looking at a chessboard during a game, it appears very different to a person who plays chess and to someone who has never even heard of the game. When we look at a room, we automatically make the distinction between concepts. We notice where the floor ends and the wall begins, where the wall ends and the roof begins... what parts are included in a sofa and which parts are pillows... Newly born babies, for example, don't have these concepts. They cannot make a distinction between a wall and a roof, or different colors. (Of course they cannot see very well either, but that's really not the point here )There is a primitive tribe somewhere in the world (can't remember where) who think of colors very differently than us. For them, green and a part of blue are different tones of one color. The other part of blue and purple are another one color. Where as we have 7 main colors, if I remember correctly, they only had 5. Undoubtedly, they perceive the world very differently. |
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It would be incomprehensible chaos. Basically, filtering and applying concepts to patterns is what creates 'sense' out of chaos and allows survival.
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The phrase 'what the world is actually like' is meaningless without an observer and hence without filtering and interpretation. Observation creates 'reality', and therefore there is no 'absolute reality'.
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Observer filters a subjective reality for that particular observer, but the reality is still there in its independent form. If a person goes blind, the exterior world does not change. The only thing that changes is his perception of the world. |
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My linguistical skills lack the ability to communicate accurately what I mean in this case in English. However, I will attempt to elaborate. We perceive time as something that runs as fast everywhere. We sometimes think of time as a fourth uniform dimension. But that's not what time is like. Time is relative to gravity, speed and light, to mention a few factors. It is an attribute of mass. But time has an absolute essence. That essence is what time is actually like. How time actually is. Same thing with dimensions. We perceive the world as local. When I type on my keyboard, I think that it only affects this room, the proximal space. But the world is non-local. I am also with a certain probability affecting entangled particles, some of which are light-years away. And it's all happening instantly. Super string theory suggests that the world is an 11-dimensioned hyperspace. Whether it's true or not, it is obvious that dimensions have a certain essence or absolute characteristics, if you will. There is an absolute way how dimensions are, or what dimensions are like. But yeah, I see where you're going with all this. Although you are making the assumption that perception cannot be perfect and complete. I guess I could reform the question: How does God perceive the world? |
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quack quack, my spelling is awefull!
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They say that time is also a construct and that a description of the universe could be made without any notion of time. I recently bought and read a book about it, but I forgot the title (I can look it up if you like).I don't think that time has an absolute essence. That would mean that if you take away everything that is not 'time', you're still left with something. I would argue that if you do that, you're left with nothing. How do we perceive time, or how do we say time passes? Because we relate it to other things: cause before effect, increase of entropy (particle distributions, radiation). If you take those things out, you're left with nothing. Quote:
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