Originally Posted by Wee Scot
You can't seriously believe there is "a" soulmate we're all destined to have as our partner!? That's just sentimental nonsense fed by the writers of romance novels and Hallmark cards! I'd be willing to bet that 1 out of ANY 10 women you meet could strike you as "the one" if you encountered her in just the right circumstances. Sure, we all have our own preferences for physical and personality traits, but there are only so many possible combinations. Just stop to think, for a moment, how many women we find attractive in any given day. Now think how attracted you would be to each of those women if you and she encountered each other in a social setting in which both of you were presented in "a favorable light." The possibilities are ENDLESS! After the initial mutual attraction, ALL relationships require a mutual willingness to work out the inevitable differences, as brabham67 just wrote. But RIGHT NOW there are millions of women (or men, if you prefer) on the planet who you could be happy with as your partner for life!
You need to read my first post again, mister.
The idea of this thread was to point out that the idea of "the one destined partner" is a contradiction, almost a paradox, if you will, because even if a unique match existed for everyone, in most cases, the pair would be inevitably unmatchable because one side of that pair would already be matched with someone else (regardless of whether the environment is a monogomy or a polygomy).
In short, if we assume that there is a unique destined "the one" for everyone, just one mismatched pair would prove this scenario wrong, as the counterpart-"the ones" of those two individuals would be blocked off (all they could do is stay unpaired or form another mismatched pair together, supposing all other pairs would be successful matches).
To make it easier to understand, imagine there are millions of unique locks and one unique key for each lock. Now, if you force a wrong key to any of those locks, the result is that one key will fit no available lock (as its lock is already taken by the wrong key) and a correct key cannot be found for one lock (because that key is already in the wrong lock).
Of course, some of those relationships will not last forever, and one might argue that eventually the unique "the ones" will find eachother, even though they aren't available for matching all of the time. But the fact that a fragment of the population dies before they ever have the change to engage in a relationship proves that this argument is void. (Comparable to a situation in the previous comparison in which a lock or a key is destroyed leaving its counterpart to exist.)
I have to rectify my statement earlier. The uneven number of male and female population does not prove the theory wrong as a part of the population are homosexuals. The unique match can also be a single-gendered pair. (An odd number of humans in the world would in fact prove the assumption wrong, but as the population figure is dynamic and constantly changing, it cannot be accurately known at any given moment.)
The point of all this? No point. Just playing with thoughts, like the topic says.